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In my ongoing moderate life, I have recently stumbled over the the notion that planning a party, a party for yourself in particular, is by far one of the most daunting tasks one can ever take upon themselves.

At the moment, it seems more daunting than voluntarily agreeing to get a root canal. More daunting than writing the LSAT exam. And then some.

Sometimes I feel as if one should just make it known that one will have a party, dress oneself up, go to the party venue, start a hearty bonfire to alert others that a party is about to take place, and then let nature take its course.  It should just be that easy. That is what my kind of utopia would look like.

But alas! That's not how it really works in reality. In real life, there seems to be a messiah of things involved all to get a group of people to a single place. Early notification via invitation, reservations bookings, precise foresight in the close proximity of venue to transit and parking spaces, foresight in who can come, (And-who-you-don't-really-like-but-they-are-dating-your-friend-so-they-are-invited-by-default) foresight in arranging a surefire way to safely get everyone home because god forbid, something DANGEROUS happens at this party. If it does, everyone will remember it as the party where something DANGEROUS (but thrilling) happened. 

According to my less than accurate knowledge of medieval customs in the 16th century, parties were organized by the medieval queen or king's trusted advisers, and invitations were only sent out to people of interest, allies and foes. Individuals who were so lucky to receive such an invitations were obliged by their loyalty to the medieval queen or king to attend this function, whether or not they could make it. Mind you, I don't know how much genuine amusement went on during these functions..

All I can leave you with, dear reader, is the hope that one day bonfires may be able to replace card invitations.

-Heidi
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Dear Music,

Consider this my letter of eternal appreciation to you. My symbol of gratitude, my humble offering of love. I can only wish that the day would emerge when schools and other institutions make it law for students to answer their tests and exams by listing the song that they feel would apply to the question most directly. The day when people ask you how you are and you can answer by naming the song that's running through your mind at that moment at that point in time. I hope for this day and I hope for it befall us soon.

I can't even begin to explain the effect that you have had on me. The marvelous, infectious, contagious effect that forces goosebumps on me. That induces shivers up my spine. That lets me fall into moments of spontaneity and bliss. That makes me calm. Oh so calm. 
I know it's awful to get hung up on something, but I have got it so bad for you. Don't blush now, you'll make me giggle. When we're both together, it's a whole other experience. And you know it. You get my ears on cue, my eyes all new and my mind all up in cahoots. You're soothing, you're energizing, you're nostalgic and you're so pure. 
Don't ever change music, don't change one bit. I see that you have your off days. We all do. It's natural. It's organic. But you always seem to come around. And that's what makes you the best thing there is. Yes, even better than carrot cake. Even better than the feeling of wet grass on naked toes. Even better than going through the IKEA catalogue for the first time. 

See you tonight.
From just another human being.

(Heidi)
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I dated this guy in high school, high school sweetheart if you will,  whom I fell for as fast as the fastest falling can occur. I loved him because he was crazy and we were crazy for each other. Sometimes, I can only remember parts of our relationship, that’s how screwed up we were.  He was tanned and played guitar. He wore a leather jacket with aviators and drove a convertible. He would shout things out the window while he drove and was never able to sit still. I remember a specific friend telling me after we broke up, ‘you were the cool one in the relationship’. I never understood this until now.

Months after our break-up, I was still devastated because I loved him more than myself for a long while and was unable to understand that over means over. While I was upset, he didn’t even want contact with me. I tried to reach him a couple of time and always, every single time, he would just destroy me. The power this guy had over me was far beyond my words. He could lift my spirits as fast as he could drop them.

Time passed and I understood that nothing is permanent and I had no regrets. In fact, I was completely fine with everything and wished him the best. I developed feelings for other men and he was out of the picture.

In the past few months, he’s contacted me and demanded me to see him. The frequency at which he has done this does not please me or give me peace of mind whatsoever.  In fact, I am completely creeped out. He has written me poems, stated that ‘his soul lies within me’ and that I must see him before he ‘departs this world’. Is he a poet? No. Is he spiritual? Hell no. Does he believe in the after-life? Of course not. Then what the hell is he doing?  Thankfully, he has done this through emails since he doesn’t know where I currently live or my phone number.  Call me crazy, but the dude is insane. The last time I saw him was over two years ago on the line to buy tickets for some play and even then, we didn’t even say hi.

I feel somewhat nervous and unsafe regarding him. He’s no longer the weirdo I used to love and all his quirks seem more and more serious. I used to think the fact that he slept with a knife under his bed was because he cared for his family and was worried if anything were to happen to them in the middle of the night. He lived in an 8-bathroom home within a good neighborhood; he didn’t need a fucking knife. He was just a freak. He had no friends except for this one dude that was high all the god damn time. People used to call him a ‘psycho’ and ‘crazy’. Why I was never worried about this, I couldn’t tell you now. Blame it on the hormones at seventeen. He broke up with me and never gave a reason. He never trusted anyone. He would randomly show up at my work to check up on me because he was a jealous bastard. He said if he couldn’t be with me, he would kill himself and to prove it, he cut his forearm and had to wear gauze for a week. After sex, he would get up to play guitar and that shit is not cute. That’s fucking weird. You lay your ass down and stay beside me after having sex with me. Do not get the fuck up to play your stupid guitar leaving me naked in your room.

In the back of my head, I always thought we might get back together in the future and always held a special place for him in my heart. His constant demands and obsession has led me someplace else. Everything he ever said has a different intonation now. It’s no longer sweet, it’s crazy and slightly scary.

Despite this, I am thankful for realizing something I should have realized a long time. The dude has issues and I am in no way willing to deal with them. I knew love was blind but never to a point that you could date a mentally unstable person and not realize it.

I guess I really was the cool one in that relationship.

- Mackie
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     As Mackenzie already mentioned, this humble little space cast amongst the vast universe of the internets can be summed up as our space to divulge and post our uncensored thoughts and epiphanies of the like that we could never dare to relay onto the social networking site known as facebook. Like Mac, I've had my facebook account since 2006, (when-it-became-cool-for-us-Canadian-folk-to-join-onto-the-facebook-bandwagon) and as of late, I have felt like the love between us is gone. Zilch, "poof!", And we've been on a mutual break for the past few months such to the point that, I have started to feel the urge to see other social networking sites.......(*gasp!*) Is that so wrong? Really, is it?

     While I am a firm believer in monogamous relationships, I can't deny the attraction I am starting to feel for other sites. I know facebook would hate me if I ever told it that I just had an afternoon romp the other day with my old account on myspace. But I dare not say anything, for I fear it's wrath of random account de-activation. 

     With this being said, I must admit that facebook still has it's old perks. For instance, just today I was able to "friend" an individual whom I had just recently met at a real-life, (that's-how-you-know-we-are-living-in-the-world-of-web-2.0) social gathering last night. Did you hear that? Just last night! Marvel at the speed! He found me through the mutual friend who was pleasant enough to give me a ride to the aforementioned party. At first, I was reluctant to add on account of the fact that last night he had released some of the most bewildering pick up lines/tactics that I have ever had the displeasure of being the target of. I decided to cave into his friend add, because I thought he had some semblance of a great eye for custom fit leather jackets. Cost-Benefit-Analyzing-You-see?

     Even before my friend and I entered the house of which the party was being held, this guy ran out onto the street, intoxicated like no one I have ever seen before, and tackled myself and my friend. He then exclaimed that he was overjoyed to see my friend and the "bitch" she brought with her. I guess you could fairly assume, that he was not one for exchanging polite greetings.

     This was followed by a sequence of personal space-invading questions and actions at the veranda of the party host's home. At one point, "this guy" even sat on the armrest of the patio chair I was sitting in (much to my obvious discomfort) and leaned real close into my face and suggested that I get a haircut as the humidity wasn't helping the resolve of my "ethnic" hair. While such an exclamation from him unfortunately did arouse an instance of momentary hair reflection, it was quickly put to rest as my friend who took me to the party pulled me aside and told me that I had unofficially become the target for the group's "pick-up artist". Moreover, she went on to inform me, that "this guy" made it his mission at every group gathering to steer his way into the bosoms of whoever caught his fancy and that he would regularly employ tactics to initially insult his target, thereby lowering her conversational barriers to allow great space for him to make forcefully lay his hold over the target. 

     After this, the rest of the night became an endless game of him consistently (albeit indirectly) trying to put me down some way or the other, such to the extent that I stayed away from him altogether. I found myself amazed and distraught that pick-up lines were still in use by many males of my generation. Which begs the bigger question, of how far have we come since "hello....?" just wasn't enough? Frankly, I love when someone introduced his/herself with a "hello" rather than a "Hey, you should really get a haircut for your ethnic hair". Is it that much to ask for? 

This blogger leaves it to your interpretation.

-Heidi
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Isn't the beginning part of any relationship the best part? You know, the hot sex and unconditional love alongside the innocence and trust? Then something happens and all of a sudden, it's just annoying and you want to get out of it but your lover is clingy and you feel guilty and you just don't know what to do but you do know what you want to do. You want to build a time machine and return to the simpler times and keep living that time period over and over again so you don't have to experience the unexperienced.

This is how my relationship with Facebook fell apart. Back in 2006, I was a fan of it, I could carelessly post and comment anything and everything I wanted to. I never had to worry about my manager seeing a picture of me wasted on Thursday night and then realizing why I was late Friday morning. Traffic jam my ass.

I no longer feel free and wild on the internet. I feel trapped in a box where everything I say or do must be censored because even grandmothers are on it. Should I post the pictures from last night even though we all look like train wrecks and there are people in them I don't recognize just to show the world that I am in fact young and allowed to have fun? Or should I just not post anything and delete all the 'inappropriate' posts so I can come across as a classy and mature young twenty-something woman?

There's already books out about Facebook but none about Facebook Etiquette where it rules what you can or cannot do. What you can post and not be judged for. Until this comes out, this blog will remain. The whole point of this is to post what we really want to say and not censor anything. We're two friends. She's blogging from Canada and I'm blogging from underneath. Let's see where this takes us...

-Mackenzie.